Dear Home Depot,

Originally posted on September 7, 2010 at 4:00 PM

I love your store. I have a nickname for your store. (The Home Pot—inspired by a sign with burned-out letters.) With the vast quantity of home improvement and craft projects I do, I practically live in your store. I know it like the back of my hand, and often find myself directing stragglers to the correct aisle. But it is important to note, Home Pot, that when I come into your store, I am more often than not one or more of the following:

• anxious to start on a project
• covered in paint, mortar, spackling, and/or unidentified particles of stuff
• in the middle of a project
• in a huge rush
• exhausted, aching, and grumpy (exchanging the wrong piece with the right one or buying more of what I ran out of)
• mumbling measurements to myself that I have to remember at the peril of failure

Lately when my lovely, handy husband and I have been perusing your aisles for such reasons, we have come across a lady. A very specific lady who approaches us with a big smile and a clipboard. The first time this happened, I somehow failed to notice that she was not in the orange apron your employees are either required to wear or sport for fashion. She asked us about our kitchen, and—unwittingly oblivious to her tapping fingernails—we answered. For about three minutes. THREE MINUTES.

(Now, I am aware that in our fast-paced society we must all take some time to slow down, stop, smell roses, and do yoga. But this is the hardware store, not temple, and to understand my frustration with this, you must reference: above list.) After realizing that this woman was not, in fact, a regular Depot worker but an overzealous “guest employee” with all of the fervor of working on commission, we politely declined her pleas and progressed to the plumbing aisle.

Where we were approached by her again about five minutes later. I guess the pressure of getting a sale had clouded her vision, because she didn’t even recognize us. About fifteen minutes after that, in the flooring department, she stopped us again. By this time I felt like yelling, “MY GOD LADY THIS STORE IS HUGE GO FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO PESTER.” I mean really. We have since ducked behind displays to avoid her on multiple subsequent trips to your store.

By this point, dear Home Pot, you might be wondering why I am complaining. Essentially, I am complaining because I want you to get rid of her. That’d be rly gr8t.

Kthnxbai,

Annie, esteemed benefactor and Co-President of Team Kyle

PS- Your receipts are waaaay too long. Knock it off, tree killers!

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Lammas

Originally posted on August 25, 2010 at 4:30 PM

Just for funsies, I recently took this quiz, “Where Are You On The Road to Publication?” by Randy Ingermanson. You answer some questions and then he gives you a grade: freshman, sophomore, junior, or senior. I got 27 out of 50 points, which puts me as a lower-level junior. I have to be honest: this result really surprised me. I thought for sure I would be a senior.

I went back and looked at my answers and his suggestions to raise your score for each one. Basically, the only questions that put me below “senior” involved going to conferences. I’ve never been to a writers’ conference before, so that pulled down my score. I’m too scared. I have social anxiety.

Laurell K. Hamilton recently blogged about a Wiccan holiday she’s celebrating right now called “Lammas” (not to be confused with Llamas). The part that is relevant to what I’m going to talk about is this: “Lammas is also a celebration of […] the male principle that must be harvested/die so that food can be eaten and seeds saved for next year’s harvest. […] This year, we’re thinking what parts of our personality, habits, job, relationships, need to die because they are no longer growing.”

Essentially, Ms. Hamilton has let go of her fear—or rather, let go of letting that fear limit her. She in particular has a phobia of flying, and although that’s still true, she no longer makes decisions based on that fear. You can read the full blog here.

That struck a chord with me. It was a bit of synchronicity that I read this blog shortly after taking that quiz. I realized that she was right. Sometimes we have things in our life that we don’t need. Things that actually hurt us, keep us from sprouting new seeds. My fear of social confrontation is one of those things. But Lammas isn’t like Lent; you don’t give something up for a month and come back to it. You have to be willing to throw it away. Give it up forever. That’s a big commitment, and I felt pretty serious about it. I didn’t jump in. I thought about it for several days. Really, truly, am I willing to give up my fear? Or rather, am I willing to stop allowing my fear to make decisions that affect my career?

Yes. Yes, I am. You’ll be happy to hear that I am now officially registered for the DFW Writers’ Conference coming up in February. And it doesn’t stop there. I’m following a few agents I would love to speak to, and if they announce their attendance at any conferences reasonably near here, I’ll try hard to go to them.

To quote Laurell once again, “So, happy Lammas. What part of yourself is limiting you right now? Are you ready to let it go?”

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the down-low on the nose-blow (the issues with the tissues)

Originally posted on August 6, 2010 at 2:15 AM

Every opinion I’ve ever had about tissues. Why? Because I can.

Whether you call them the generic “tissues,” the British “paper handkerchiefs,” or apply the brand name “Kleenex” to all forms of the product, everyone has to have something to blow their nose with. And since handkerchiefs for actual use went out of vogue, oh, I don’t know, say 100 years ago (the Kleenex was actually invented in 1924), disposable paper facial tissues seem like a topic everyone can relate to.

First of all, no one likes those lotion ones. They feel slimy, and although they may do the job for your nose, they also spread that grease all over your surrounding facial area. Not to mention that tissues can be used for so many thing besides blowing your nose, most of which don’t require lotion. Ever tried to clean your glasses off with a lotioned tissue? It’s so much easier to just use a regular tissue and then dab a bit of lotion or Vaseline on after.

Instead of popping big bucks on expensive “soothing” tissues, I prefer the generic brands. I have allergies, so I blow my nose often, and I really don’t need extra-plush tissues to do so. The two-ply kind still have to be folded over (no matter what the commercial says), so you might as well get the thinner ones that cost a lot less.

I also like to use them on lots of other things, like a quick sink wipe-down (which leads to less frequent cleaning and less chemicals used), minor spills (where a whole paper-towel would be wasteful), makeup, etc. So buying cheaper and using them in place of more expensive paper towels is a good way to go. My favorites? “Great Value,” the generic by Walmart, has some really simple designs out right now that I like. (Yes, yes, Walmart’s evil; I know. Put it in a letter.) The only time I splurge on tissues? To get the super cute holiday boxes.

As for reusing tissues… if that reusing is for anything bodily, I’d say no way. Gross! That’s like begging for bacteria to cultivate. (Not to mention housemates to gag.) The only time you shouldn’t just trash a used tissue is if it’s been used on something non-perishable to later be used on something else non-perishable. And even then, they’re like 1.08 a box; just toss it.

Here’s something: tissue box covers. I usually think they’re unnecessary unless your room design is “fancy” enough that a box of tissues ruins the effect. In which case, I have one suggestion: think about the top surface of your cover before you buy it (and your matching bathroom set). We got this super cute cover from Bed Bath & Beyond, and although I think it’s perfect for the room it’s in, the black top is silly. When you pull a tissue out of the holder, it leaves behind hundreds of tiny pieces of tissue-dust. White dust. That land on that black surface. It will never be clean. I actually think it was worth it, but other people might not. Food for thought.

Want some creative ways to use tissues? How about a Tootsie Roll ghost?
A cute carnation for a baby or bridal shower?

Not into crafts quite that disposable? Check out this adorable idea for a tissue box photo album. I’ve even cut out sections of really pretty tissue boxes and framed them as impromptu art for staging a home!

Once you get started, the possibilities are endless! I promise I’m not in cahoots with any of the major tissue companies *yet.* I wish you all few tears and happy nose-blowing!

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Nine Tips For Filling a Home

Originally posted on August 17, 2010 at 7:05 PM

First time homebuyer? New apartment? Wanting to redecorate? Anyone who wants
to eventually fill or refill their home has to decide when/where to spend the
bucks. Here are some tips I’ve picked up so far:

1.) Mix the cheap & thrifty in with the high quality &
expensive
to fool the eye into assuming everything is high-end. I
mean, if you’re that rich, go ahead and buy whatever you want for every piece
of furniture in your house… but most of us aren’t. My philosophy? Allow
yourself to buy one “love it” piece per room—one splurge that isn’t necessary
but that you absolutely adore—and fill the rest with “compromises.” (Bonus:
make that piece one that you can take with you if you move, i.e., not the
flooring.)

 

2.) For the big pieces, go neutral (sofas, large desks,
tables, countertops). This will give you use of your most costly items for
years and years. That orange sofa might look cool now, but trust me, you’ll be
sick of it in 5-10 years. Go for a gray, beige, brown, or soft green and toss
some bright orange pillows on it instead. Or opt for the orange ottoman!

 

3.) If you can afford it, choose quality on pieces you have to touch.
Bedding, towels, cabinet hardware, and your office chair are worth a few extra
dollars if they’re pleasant to use. But the side tables, material of your cabinets,
accessories, and light fixtures you generally leave alone, so you can skimp and
never miss a beat.

 

4.) Don’t buy black furniture unless you love to dust.

 

5.) Don’t pay for headboards! Upholstered headboards are
super easy to make and cost about $50 as opposed to $300, and they can be
adjusted to suit any style room. (Just google “how to make an upholstered
headboard.) Bonus? You can lean back to read in bed! Don’t have $50 to drop on
a headboard? Buy a piece of fabric/poster/paint you love, hang it over the bed,
and trim it out with small molding from a hardware store for less than $10 if
you play your cards right.

 

6.) Don’t throw it out yet! Have a piece you’re sick of?
Before you toss it, consider giving it a crazy re-vamp. A fresh coat of
brightly-colored paint can make an old piece seem new and fun again. Plus,
painted furniture balances solid wood-tones for a more interesting roomscape.
This even works for odd objects such as ugly vases or statuettes you don’t
like. Even strange shapes, when painted in a solid, modern color, can create a
bold contemporary statement. Or paint several pieces all white for a country-
or beach- style room.

 

7.) When in doubt: throw it out! In general, we all have
too much clutter in all of our rooms. If you’ve looked at a piece, can’t think
of a way to fix it, and hate it… give it away for someone else to use. Clutter
in the home is clutter on the spirit.

 

8.) Buy expensive materials for small projects. A good
example of this is using granite on a small bathroom countertop. Although
granite is high-end and brings in the big bucks when it comes time to sell, if
you have a 30 inch counter and buy pre-fab, you can cover it for as little as
$150! This is worth it as buyers and viewers appraise it much higher in their
heads.

 

9.) Buy cheap materials for large projects. A good example
of this is using laminate instead of granite on a large kitchen countertop.
Covering an average kitchen in granite could cost upwards of $2,500 easy. If
you choose laminate look-alike instead, you can cover those counters, get a
backsplash installed, and buy a new sink and faucets ALL for less than that.
Remember, you’d still have to buy those things with the granite, too.

 

Of course, none of these rules are rigid. If you can afford granite in the
kitchen and live in a nice neighborhood, the pay-off will likely be worth it.
But overall, these are the things I would suggest to any person who is working
on filling a current or future home one piece at a time. Best of luck!

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Shades of Gray Revisited

Originally posted on August 13, 2010 at 3:08 PM

Several people have emailed me, etc., about my most recent blog about depression. Their obvious concern, commiseration, and suggestions have made me realize two things: 1) I’m glad I blog about depression and 2) that post may have come off as heavier than I intended it to. Allow me to explain.

1.

As with any personal problem, there is a stigma surrounding depression. People are embarrassed to admit they struggle with it, and other people feel uncomfortable when hearing about it. This is a normal part of our society, but also unnecessary and potentially harmful. If shame prevents a single person from seeking the help they need to be healthy, well, then shame on the shamers is what I say. And in a small way, on a small scale, I feel like I can begin to change this, or begin to help other people who feel like I feel. It is a very real disease with sometimes fatal consequences. If you need help, for love’s sake, get help.

2.

That being said, my depression isn’t dangerous to anything but my moods about 90% of the time. I can remember a very small number of times that my depression affected my life to the point that I couldn’t push through it to do things I would normally have done. I am lucky enough to have never once been suicidal. Or even considered killing myself. It isn’t even a possibility for me, so your mind may rest easy there.

Now, does this make my depression less “severe” than other people’s? I don’t know, and I don’t really care. It feels severe enough to me. On the other hand, I have sought help, and was able to find a cognitive exercise that changed my life. I know how to self-treat when I want to. I don’t always want to. I embrace the darkness of life more than anyone else I know, and part of that is allowing myself to feel the pain. Feel the sadness. Emotions can’t break you; all they can do is change you. And the artist in me likes that, so sometimes I let it ride.

When I described how every negative feels like depression for me now, I wasn’t clear enough about one thing: it feels like depression (and maybe is), but it doesn’t last like depression. If I got truly, long-term depressed every time I felt sad I would always be depressed, and that certainly isn’t the case. I’m happy a lot these days. Depression isn’t even upsetting to me anymore. It’s like an old friend, and when I get tired of it, I ask nicely and it’ll usually leave without too much trouble.

So thank you, to those of you who messaged me about one aspect or another, for caring. And for those of you who struggle, I wish you the best in finding your medium. And to all, happy Friday the 13th.

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